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Work process: Handling a conflict

Quiet steps when emotions take over

Good conflict management is not about winning, it is about helping everyone move forward with dignity intact.

§Step by step

  • 01Stay calm yourself – your calm is contagious.
  • 02Make sure that no one comes to harm.
  • 03Sit at eye level and listen to those involved.
  • 04Put words to the feelings: 'I can see you're really angry.'
  • 05Separate the person from the action – the person is OK, the action was not.
  • 06Help find a way forward, preferably together with those involved.
  • 07Follow up afterwards if someone needs it.